I want to give a shout out to a barbershop in West Harlem
that is part of an exceptional way to combine an African-American tradition and
HIV. Imagine going in to get your hair cut and at the same time having the
ability to get a free HIV test. At Denny Moe's Superstar Barbershop, you can do
both without the stigma attached. With a partnership with a community
organization, Iris House, they have created a welcoming space to talk about
HIV. In fact on some occasions you can get a free haircut just by getting the
HIV test. Even better.
I wish more barbers were part of this initiative as next to
the church it’s an important pillar of the community and one of the way
messages or information is garnered and shared. If we had to look at the
important places where messages are dispersed and behaviors are learned it
would be home, church, barbershops and for women hair/nail salon, and not
necessarily in that order.
I liken barbershops to a brotha working downtown and finally
makes it home, can loosen his tie, throw some slang in his King’s English and
let his hair down. It’s a call and response as dialogue is shared of what’s
happening in the world with an African-American perspective. In that communal
of brotherhood amidst the healthy dialogue is still the reality that not all
are supportive of the LGBT community and has no problem letting others know. Also
just like the church if you’re a gay man, the barbershop can be one of those
places where you’re demonized by the gathering of members from the community.
And often we sit in silence as the language of hate is spread in the
establishment.
I know when I had a head full of hair I would experience it
myself as I waited my turn for my barber. As I looked through the copy of Jet
magazine there would sometimes be someone seeing something on the overhead television
or some other trigger that starts them on their homophobic tirade. Soon others
join in, as there’s an unwritten rule that your manhood will be called into
question if you’re swimming against the stream.
And sometimes it’s about picking your battles as you tell
yourself that having a barber who can cut your hair right is more important
than trying to change someone’s ignorant mindset. “I’m not here to change the
world I just want my cut” And also we’re not all in the battle as we may not
have made comfort with our sexual identity. I know for me at the time that was
the justification for my silence.
So to even discuss HIV would solicit quick response from men
who wanted to let you know they didn’t have it and declare it’s “those kind who
get the monster”. Ironically they announce this not fully knowing what their
status is yet find validation in others objection to it.
That’s why I feel what happens with Iris House and Denny Moe’s
Barbershop creates a great opportunity to start a dialogue about HIV. It makes
since as the disease is heavily affecting the community of which many
barbershops are in. And just by offering the test it opens other doors.
It creates a safe environment and no matter how you identify
as you can be part of an important exchange of discussion even if you’re just
reading the Jet magazine and don’t contribute to the talk. Another great opportunity
is it allows African-American men to think about their health, removing any
stigma that comes with discussing a visit to the doctor. The most important
piece is that it removes HIV from a ‘them’ conversation to an ‘us’ conversation
as awareness is made that HIV is not an exclusive club for only gay men.
Looking at prevention methods especially in the urban areas
it’s this type of non-traditional methods I feel are the most effective. It’s not
localized to night clubs where so much HIV prevention happens. Although many
HIV organizations may not admit or agree but sometimes going to clubs is often an
easy way out and many are missed based on their personal preference of not
attending such establishments.
Also in Denny Moe’s situation it’s not just about handing
someone a condom in a package with literature and a lollipop. Now you have a
back and forth dialogue that creates involvement. The conversation is organic
and not forced to meet HIV testing quotas. And this dialogue is not just
directed or shaped by one’s age demographic but includes the village of elders along
with the youth who all are affected by this disease.
So again hats of to the efforts of this collaboration
between a barbershop and a community based agency for not only doing its part
in removing the stigma of talking about HIV but using its unique position in
the community to create unity around a serious discussion everyone should be
having. Just imagine the progress that would be made against this disease in
the African-American community if this example was followed.
HIV can be cut by putting unity back in the community.
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